The way we really are

by Stephanie Coontz

Family historian Stephanie Coontz offers a guide to the causes and consequences of today's family trends. Meticulously researched and carefully balanced, The Way We Really Are demonstrates why a historically informed perspective on changing family roles and arrangements can be as helpful in sorting through many family dilemmas as going into therapy - and much more helpful than listening to today's political debates. Coontz argues that although we can draw some lessons from the past about how to strengthen families, we must face the reality that mothers are going to remain in the workplace, family diversity is here to stay, and the nuclear family can no longer handle all the responsibilities of elder care and child rearing. She explains how economic trends, changes in adult-teen relations, declining dependence of women on marriage, and new roles for men affect the dynamics of family life. Some problems associated with these changes, Coontz explains, come from economic and cultural force